Latest generation Lifestyle
It is my opinion and I would like to say that the lifestyle
most of us are leading a lifestyle which is mostly dependent on other's
perception about us.
Right from the career we choose, to the clothes we wear are
so much dependent on other's
opinion. Just look at it. Let us
consider the choice of a vehicle we want to purchase. Frankly speaking the main
purpose of buying a vehicle is to make it helpful for us to move from one place
to another. Isn't it? But we focus more
on the brand of the vehicle because if we buy a vehicle which is not trending
then we will begin to feel that we may not be accepted. Let us say one wants to
buy a car and his or her budget is around 4 to 5 lakhs. Let us say the person
decides to buy an Alto car. But immediately right from the spouse, parents,
relatives and friend’s perception begins to take an upper hand rather than the
actual necessity. So the person is in a dilemma and begins to feel a sense of
obligation to buy a higher end car. Inevitably the person will rather go for a
car loan and buy a higher end car than going for an economically viable
Now let us consider the choice of purchasing a dress. Here
also the same kind of thought process happens and will end up buying a costlier
dress rather than going for an economically viable dress. The reason is again
the same. The person feels that he or she may not be accepted if they buy a
dress which is not costly or branded.
Now let us consider purchase of a home. The same issue can
be seen here too. The person will rather go for a housing loan or borrow from
others and settle in a bigger or more luxurious home than a small comfortable
and an economically viable home. What is the reason? Answer is same. What will
people think if I purchase a smaller home.
So by looking at the above instances, I certainly think that every decision we take
to have a particular lifestyle is mostly based on other people's opinion.
So what is the solution to all this? I think the answer is
right within us. It all boils down to what are your values and properties in
life. What I mean to say is, a person A,
may value having fulfillment as Value number one. Another person B, may value
status symbol as Value number one. Another person C, may consider pleasing
others as Value number one. So it may vary from person to person. So, one needs to deep dive into their respective
value system and probably do a revamping. The point I am trying to say is we
have lost touch with our inner most desires. Most of the time we are trying to
go satisfy the desires of others and seek appreciation from others.
Unfortunately you can never ever satisfy everyone in this world. Not only that
it will begin to take a toll on your own mind and will begin to cause lot of
I believe that we must just live life the way we want and
never ever lead a life to please others. I am not saying that we must never
care for others. We must ensure that our lifestyle must be according to our
fulfillment and satisfaction. When you live a lifestyle which is in sync with
your innermost desires you will start feeling a sense of satisfaction.
One must live a life which is in sync with your true and
innermost desires and requirements, rather than always trying to match the
opinion of others. By doing so, I definitely think that one can have peace of
mind because you are living life with what you are heart says and when one
listens to the heart it will always augur well for the person.
Dinkar Jagadish Rao,
Certified Master Neuro Linguistic Trainer,
Certified First Degree Self Hynotist,
Certified Third Degree Reiki Master,
Personality Development Trainer,
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